Recovery and healing after narcissistic abuse.
Hello, I’m Elizabeth Shaw, I’ve found myself again after an 8-year on-off relationship with a narcissist, I’ve broken the cycle of abuse, and would love to help you break it too. I’d love to help you re-discover yourself, your inner happiness, your self-esteem self-belief self-values self-trust, your passions and your boundaries, and so much more.
After narcissistic abuse. Although my experience of narcissistic recovery is after a narcissistic father and a narcissist sociopath relationship, I can help, if the narcissist in your life is your partner, an ex-partner, a parent, a friend, a sibling, or your boss, a co-worker.
One minute you’re living your dream life with the perfect partner, your soulmate, the one. Then suddenly they begin to change. They seem angry and unhappy often belittling you, leaving you hurt, confused, anxious, uneasy and criticised.
Over time you become more confused and bewildered, questioning yourself and everything you do. Trying not to say or do the wrong thing, trying to keep the peace, changing yourself time and time again, yet nothing is working, you find you're tiptoeing around them, walking on eggshells, doing everything you can to keep them happy, yet it's getting worse.
Nothing you do is good enough, you’re getting all the blame and taking all the blame for the problems in the relationship, you find out they’ve been lying and cheating, they blame you for that too.
They will not be accountable, they will not apologise and if they do it’s only a false apology, if you take them back, it cycles back around to them cheating again, they will not give you closure, and your left feeling like you’re crazy, questioning if you are the narcissist.
Does that sound familiar? I know how it feels and how lonely and hard the journey of recovery is.
You ask yourself, how could someone who loved and cared for me so much, treat me this way? Why are they trying to hurt me? Why are they smearing my name to everyone?
The pain can be unbearable, and with the trauma bond, you may have tried or been trying to win them back, you are not alone in this.
You might have realised there is no hope for the relationship to ever work, you may still be in the relationship and trying to get out safely.
You are left devastated trying to piece your life back together, working out who they were as they could treat you better than anyone ever had and also worse than anyone ever had. You are trying to piece back yourself and rebuild your life, but you just don’t know where to start.
You may feel lost, powerless with no one to turn to for help and support.
You are not alone in this, and once you start working on you, life will become amazing again, you will begin to trust others again.
You don’t have to spend any more of your life suffering, there's a way to turn all this around, you have the power to change your life around, and I’d love to help you through this.
Rediscovering who you truly are.
After narcissistic abuse, often you’re left feeling crazy, thinking that you are actually the narcissist, you’ve lost who you truly are and more.
When you’re left feeling lost, confused, angry, hurt and broken, with no one around you that understands what you’ve been through, it’s truly heartbreaking. You are not alone, I’ve been there and countless others have too, I understand what you’ve been through and the journey you go on to get yourself back, You can find yourself again and you can be happy again.
When you’re feeling lost and alone with no one to turn to, who understands you, and what you’ve been through.
With the narcissist most likely having already smeared your name to all those around you, it’s often hard to speak out and feel understood, fearing judgment from others and getting the help and support you need.
You are far from alone in this, there are people that understand you.
I understand you.
To let go of the pain, feeling judged and making the changes to a much happier life for yourself, to surround yourselves and reconnecting with old friends that the narcissist helped remove from your life, and making new great positive friendships.
When you are committed to making the changes for yourself, it changes everything for you.
1 learning about no contact or grey rock.
How to break the contact with the narcissist in your life, for your best future.
2 Learning your boundaries.
You may have been or become a people pleaser, it’s ok, you’re not alone in this, I can help you rediscover your boundaries and that it’s ok to say no. A narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum, so some of you have to go no contact, some of you can manage grey rock, I can teach you how to implement both of these.
3 Trauma bonding and anxiety.
self-help guide to understanding what trauma bonding is, and ways to recover, Guide to learn about anxiety and ways to recover.
4 Raising children with a narcissist.
This is extremely difficult, as our feelings towards our children are different from those with a narcissistic personality disorder.
I can help you understand what to expect, how you can get through child arrangements, how you can help the children if they still see the narcissistic parent and how to help if safeguarding is too big and they no longer see the other parent, or if the parent has just walked away. It’s hard, it gets easier with simple steps.
5 discovering who you are again and walking on the positive side of life.
It’s insidious all the things you have been through, I can help you understand the trauma bond, you may have lost family and friends, I can help you with changing your attitude towards life and your mindset, to create who you are again, and find your inner happiness,
How you talk to yourself is a learning curve that will feel uncomfortable to start with, as your mind will most likely have been reprogrammed by the narcissist.
You changed everything about yourself to please the narcissist, which shows you can do it, now you’ve got to believe in yourself, and know the steps you need to take to change yourself into who you want to be. Surrounding yourself with positive people who lift you up.
# 5 Moving forward with your life.
You can not change your past, you can change the meaning of your past, you can bring yourself into the present, there are methods to help you get rid of those past thoughts and feelings, and that narcissist constantly running through your mind, it’s not easy but it is simple and once you start putting those steps into place it becomes easy.
If you’re fed up of them living rent-free in your mind, I can help you find the method that works for you to remove them from your mind.
To give you mind a fresh view on your life, creating new visions and new dreams, for a much stronger, happier and wiser you. Believe in yourself and anything is possible.
A challenge for yourself today is do something you always loved doing that you stopped doing whilst with the narcissist.
I can help you.
- Release the hurt and addiction.
- Let go of those repetitive painful thoughts and stop the narcissist running around your mind.
- Release those obsessive thoughts.
- Give yourself closure
- Give yourself inspiration for new goals and dreams.
- Feel inner happiness again.
And many more.
I would love to help you, overcome, trauma bond, anxiety, and leave the narcissist in the past. If this sounds good to you, this course is perfect for you to begin a new happier life for you today.
Thank you, Elizabeth.
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